They can come in the form of a proud father/mother or an individual with issues. What ever they are, I am sure most people can agree that they generate in us a negative feeling.
For a long time it puzzled me why would people dislike or hate an arrogant person. Sounds like a stupid question? The answer has probably got to do with human's basic instinct to survive. So how does hating an arrogant person help us in our survival in this world?
Well I finally got an answer after I met someone that doesn't mind an arrogant prick. She is an "average" girl my age. Knowing her, she don't have any inferiority complex and she have a mature mind for her age. She can work along side a really annoying arrogant prick. Now that is really super human. Through her I figured that people generally hate cocky people because cocky people give an impression, at least subconsciously that they think people around them are not competent.
Humans have a basic need to be accepted, appreciated and liked. A cocky person deprive a person of that feeling and so their mind will respond negatively. So truly, its not the cocky person that people hate, what they truly hate is the feeling their mind generate from a cocky person.
The need to be liked in humans is a survival instinct, humans have a tribal mind set. We need a "tribe" for protection. So for the sake of survival the mind will create pain when we are disliked or not appreciated and will create pleasure when we get accepted by our peers. In that way, we generate a herd mentality to conform with the crowd. There is good and bad in doing so. Our primal instinct to survive can interfere with other things in our life.
So if you are forced to work with an arrogant prick, it is really a good chance to learn to put your mind under control, because the primal and subconscious function of your mind doesn't always have the your best interest in its mind.
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